Today is a day to work on creating affirmations that keep my words and actions in line with my core principles.

How many time had I reacted to a situation the thought afterward “Why did I that, in know better yet I did it anyway”. Maybe I said something hurtful or sarcastic to someone I love or care about. Maybe I reacted out of anger and slammed a door or stormed out a room. As soon I did it I was sorry and tried to cover it up with humour or an apology, just walked in shame or worse justified my actions by saying they made me do it.

I can beat myself up, wallow in self-pity play the blame game or I can retrain myself to be a better me. Athletes don’t just hit the feild and pull off a fabulous game they train. I need to sit down when things are calm and visualize a situations that makes me uncomfortable and may cause any of the these negative reactions. I then take a deep breath and visualize a better outcome the one I wish I had done. Form this space I can create an affirmation that I can draw on the next time I feel myself slipping into those old ways of being.

Is this easy? NO. Does it work 100% of the time? NO. I am getting better at it though. Yes, everyday. It also allows for space in a situation which sometimes all that is needed. I think many of you have heard me say “As soon as one person raises their voice no one is listening”. it goes the other to I believe as soon as one person calm it allows for others to take a breath as well. If nothing else I get to walk away feeling better about myself and let go things quicker than I used to. So I count that as a small win.

Rosetta Sanders