Today is a day to reflect on the thought that life tis determined in the gap between stimulus and response.

So many of my responses are programmed into me from past events, learning and media. I am not so much responding to the moment but to the history that came before the moment. For example my husband is late getting home and I begin to feel unworthy, ignored, neglected and the later he is the worse I feel until my response is one of anger. As soon as it happens I regret it.

Often as I reflect on my irrational response images from my past pop into my head. these are threads I need to tidy up. To spend some time clearing. When I really look at them I find that I may have assigned huge meaning to moments which shouldm’t have meant much. Children tend to tend to do that. I can’t count the number of times I have gone back to clear something and realized the words that I carried for years were just small statements said by some one doing the best they could with what they had at the time.

As I continue to do the work I can choose to live her now. To recognize a negative emotion when it comes to spend more time in the gap. Even just a moment to breathe. Anything is possible I am safe.

Rosetta Sanders