Today is a day to say sorry Mom you were wrong…

You said, “sticks and stones can break my bones but words can never hurt.” Actually, they can. However, I have some power there that I did not always know about. I could not control whether or not my arm would break that time I fell on the ice, or how long it would take to heal. I have however carried some pain for far longer than I should have over hurtful or often rather misunderstood words. Unlike the broken bone much of the pain and lack of healing was a choice I made to give allow events from the past to invade my today. I have learned over time that it is okay to react, be hurt be angry and even self-righteous for a moment then let it go. Unlike the broken arm I have way more control over the healing process. 

One of the most healing thoughts I have learned is to remember that everyone is doing the best they can with the limited knowledge and resources that they have.  I believe that when and if they know better they will do better. If they do not know better while on this earth they will the second, they cross over and the consequence will be that they have to exist with that. Some may say this may not be true and to that I say what difference does it make it makes me feel better so I will imagine that it is possible. 

Love you Mom and thanks for giving me the strength, courage and opportunities to seek my own answers.

Rosetta Sanders